Have you ever watched a tree grow? I’m not talking about watching lilies blossom, but a tree growing. I recently bought a house and I have been watching some trees I bought grow, but I never notice them actually growing. I do realize overall that they’re bigger though. This makes sense in a way C.S. Lewis once made light of:
“Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes, but when you look back, everything is different…”C.S. Lewis!
…and how true is that.
Now granted sometimes something drastic (good or bad) can happen that will change your life but so many times looking back we don’t realize what’s happened.
Ever fall in love and not realize you were until you did? Ever lose some weight and not realize the difference until a few weeks had gone by? Ever become so attached to something but not know it until you try to detach yourself? Day by day nothing changes but looking back everything is different.
Again, don’t get me wrong, things happen that can cause large spikes in transitional activity in your life, but for the most part, many a days: nothing changes.
So many times we’re watching and waiting for everything to come to fruition: broken hearts to heel, good deeds to go noticed, hard work to pay off, confusion made into clear vision, prayers answered, favor from The Lord, you name it, we’re waiting for it.
Multiple people in my life that have been very close to me have told me at one point or another to take things day by day. I’m not the free spirited type to just sit back and see what happens. I’m a thorough planner. To me, saying one day at a time or day by day sounds like you want me to be a hippie who doesn’t care about anything and carelessly does what they want.
Clearly, that line is blurred in my head from thorough planning to careless living.
Trying to comprehend this day by day theory, I realized that I don’t think we’re supposed to try to “watch these things”, or pay attention to them. I think there’s a reason in Matthew 6:34, Jesus says worry not about tomorrow for today has enough troubles of its own. The one who created you and breathed the stars and all of life into existence told you to focus on today.
What does encourage me about this theory is looking back and noticing things are different. The day by day theory has to make sense to you when you look back and notice things are different, things have changed, things have come to fruition.
I was talking to a client and good friend of mine, Jordan, about this at his wedding Saturday night. There were some heavy ups and downs in his relationship where he flat out thought it was over and didn’t comprehend what was going on, but we laughed together, as he stood there next to his gorgeous bride Lauren, saying to each other isn’t it crazy how at times something is the end of the world, but you look back at it after it’s come to fruition and you so clearly see what God did, and you make a promise with yourself to trust God more next time.
Easier said than done, understood, but those are the moments we need to hold on to. When times get tough, we need to look back to those moments of clarity, those moments where we made those promises because it was for the greater good. And not just the moments in your own life but also to be encouraged when others are blessed and when something comes to fruition in their lives. For example seeing what God did in Lauren and Jordan life encourages me, and why shouldn’t it, we serve the same God!
Now, don’t get me wrong, there are going to be weak moments, there are going to be times you do not want to weather the storm. There are going to be times you break down and cry your eyes out (and probably will), there are going to be times you want to give in to the thoughts in your head, to try to reason, justify and rationalize, but I urge you to quietly weather the storm, to dance in the rain and get wet. Trust God. He’s working something out to the greater good. He promised that He works all things to good to those that love Him and are called according to His purpose! (Romans 8:28).
God won’t withhold anything good from us, so if you’re in a storm right now, if times are tough, it has to be because he’s working something out in your life. As I said above, this whole day by day concept of living is not easy for me, I won’t lie, but I urge you to join me in making a conscience effort, to give it your all, to let go of your worries and fears and give God his rightful place to move. He is worthy of us at least trying with all that we have.