I read an article on Monday that stated it was found to be the most depressing day of the year. The study completed found reasons ranging (aside from it being a typical Monday and one after a long holiday vacation), guilt over failed resolutions (people give up fast), divorces (saying January is the most popular month for divorces to be filed – interesting), and weather complaints (way too cold everywhere), among other reasons.
One of those other reasons I believe to be that the number of things people were looking forward to are now done and over. Everyone loves having things to look forward to, myself included! This time of year, people were looking forward to a plethora of different things: new starts (as if that’s such a thing on January 1st), holiday parties, holiday family get-togethers, the holidays themselves, etc. At the end of the year, it seems as if everyone quickly dismisses the future and sets their eyes on all of these “temporary highs”. These “temporary highs” are really year around but at this time of year, there are just so many, and once the holidays are over, everyone seems to be in a state of panic/depression while seeking the next high.
Much like the day after your birthday or the day after Christmas, or any other holiday you really enjoy, there’s that crash. All that anticipation built up, all that hype – over, and what goes up must come down. High’s have been simmered, expectations met – and you’re ready to do it all over again.
That’s too far away though, so now what? What is there to look forward to in this world in the big picture? Tax season? Spring break? Back to work? What’s the mindset, what’s the focus, what’s the perspective to help alleviate that drag attitude and crash? Is there a way to ride it out?
First and foremost, you should be seeking God and His will for you, aside from that, start looking forward to tomorrow. Don’t dread tomorrow, look forward to tomorrow. The possibilities for what you can accomplish tomorrow are limitless. With the right relentless mindset, tomorrow’s possibilities for greatness and success – in anything you do – are limitless.
From a worldly standpoint, you have to do something, you always have to have proper perspective and I think one thing to do here is to not ask yourself those questions I just rattled off. All they do is build that hype, build that anticipation, build up an unhealthy addiction to highs and end up fueling your journey from another high to another low. A high to low pattern is horrible for you, it can lead to depression, misery, drugs, alcohol and for some suicide. Not only can it be a dangerous mindset but it causes you to suffer in your day to day life, and miss out on many blessings.
It’s ironic that this blog article succeeds my last article posted titled “One day at a time”. I think that a One Day at a Time mindset is exactly what’s needed. Going to work on Monday morning and looking forward to Friday afternoon when the weekend starts is no way to go through life. It’s torture. It’s setting you up for never being happy, never being content, and not living in the moment (to a smart degree, not to no end).
Aside from that, when you do these things, you are completely dismissing what God has in store for you. You’re robbing yourself of the Joy God’s promised you. God touches on this mindset many times. In Proverbs 27:1, we’re told “Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring.” Who knows what could happen in a day – good or bad! You could be so confident in your job and planning a big weekend getaway and then lose your job the next day. Talk about a crash.
On the contrary, you could be in debt into your eyeballs and score a contract that ends every financial woe you have, and now you spent all that time worrying over absolutely nothing, because God, the one who has the hairs on your head numbered, already has your entire life mapped out.
Again in Matthew 6:34, we’re told “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” I think if we’re told don’t worry about tomorrow, the right thing to do would be to look forward to tomorrow. No matter how bad it may be, God’s grace is sufficient and He will be with you. Tomorrow could possibly be the best day of your life!
So many times, people are so busy worrying how something will turn out, or they are fearful of what will happen tomorrow, or curious how to make something happen, instead of just letting God’s plans come around full circle, and in doing so they just dismiss today all together and go against what God says, which is slow down, relax, and take things day by day.
I understand how bad situations can be. I understand that certain circumstances can be thrown in my face and said “what about this!” – I don’t have the answer. Long term, we’re told when we get to heaven that every tear will be wiped away and there will be no more crying. Short term, take it all day by day. Sit down, control your breath, fake a smile and start counting your blessings. If you’re suffering and your hearts real heavy, the best thing you can do is to focus on the positives. (Check out this blog article I wrote on positivity).
I can assure you this, no matter what tomorrow holds, God already knows, and He’s with you. Embrace tomorrow. No matter what it may be, no matter what’s before you. Embrace doctors visits, embrace dreaded calls, embrace the unknown, embrace the grind and look forward to what good can come out of tomorrow. Not this weekend, not next month, not what vacation, not next year, not what if, but tomorrow. If you sit there with a negative outlook on tomorrow, I doubt much good will happen.
On the contrary, put some positive energy into tomorrow, and just maybe – it will be the greatest day of your life. Maybe it won’t be, but hey, I bet it won’t be as bad as it could be! Just remember no matter what, sit down, count 1…2…3… take a deep breathe, and embrace what’s before you! Winston Churchill once said “attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.”
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ JesusPhilippians 4:6-7
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