Love is loyalty

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Love is loyalty.

And I don’t think we live in a culture that lacks loyalty, I think we live in a culture that lacks love. True love.

Loyalty? It’s there. It’s everywhere. Talk to someone who won’t walk into Moe’s because they’re a Chipotle person. Talk crap about someone’s favorite team who hasn’t won a game all season. Watch their reaction. Ask an Apple user what they think of a droid phone. Ask a Ford or a Dodge truck owner what they think of a Chevy.

Loyalty is everywhere. The problem is love.

Our culture has watered down what love is and what we think it is. Our culture and society has swapped out love for desire, true love for lust, 50 years of happiness for 5 hours of stories with your girls, or boys.

We don’t have a loyalty issue, we have a love issue.

We have an issue in our culture that negates the selfless loyalty of love with selfish desire for lust. 

We have a society that pushes online dating if you’re single for too long. Nothing is wrong with online dating, but the constant need to set someone up is only arguably contributing to the growing divorce rate. It’s not about friendships and bonds that lead to relationships, it’s about filling a void society created for you.

Couples get married who don’t even love each other. When was the last time you used an online website to find a best friend? Again, nothing wrong with these things, if you CHOOSE it. Having it pushed on you, come on. What happened to wanting to fall in love with someone who is your best friend? What happened to wanting love, not a relationship. What happened to wanting a family, not someone to have kids with so you can co-parent.

You should want someone to have kids with, I do. I want nothing more. But you should also have a desire to have a family, to have that best friend and a partner to raise kids with, to create a family with. To create memories as a family.

We live in a culture that lacks love. True love. 2000 years ago, whether you believe it or not, Jesus Christ died on a cross for you, and me. That’s true love. A better love story than Hollywood could ever write.

Today, people don’t care about their spouses enough to remember an anniversary. To do something special for no reason. To not downplay the relationship because they’ll be potentially mocked. To stand up for a relationship they care about. To admit when they were wrong. To change.

I get it, by now you’re probably thinking what do I know, I’m single. “Wait until you’re married.” I get it. I’ve heard it for the last decade. Doesn’t change anything or the points I’m making. Your emotion tells you that “wait until you’re married.”, but in realty its either ignorance or conviction. Because I’m sure there’s a happy couple reading this that says you’re spot on, and I need to fight harder in my relationship, or I’ve lived through this.

It’s not a given. But love is loyalty.

I’ve seen relationships fall apart at the seams, and have been very close to some of them. Too close to some of them. I’ve learned some hard lessons. I’ve made some mistakes. I’ve done some things I regret. I’ve done others that I would do 100 times over. That’s my heart.

Going through what I’ve been through in the last 30 years, especially in my most recent years, I would strongly encourage you to be loyal to your love. I’m not using love as a pronoun naming someone, I’m saying be selflessly loyal to the love in your heart. If it’s true love, esteem it above everything else.

If for some reason, you took then time to read all this, I would simply leave you with this… Jesus said thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.  Love your NEIGHBOR, who you probably don’t even care about that much, like you love yourself. How about your wife? How about your husband? How about that person you started dating that you think you could marry. Do you truly love them? Are you selflessly, fully-devoted to the loyalty of loving them?

Temptation is real. Trials are inevitable. Short-term failure will occur. But at the end of the day, love, true love, is absolute loyalty. And I’ve seen relationships that demonstrate this and prove this to be true. Love is loyalty.

Just my thoughts tonight.

 If you care to comment, would love to hear your thoughts.

JB

Why do bad things happen?

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The question is something I indirectly ask myself often. We all know by now that bad things are going to happen to us – health issues, financial woes, heartache, those moments in life that blindside you and instantly your body wants to vomit, you name it. We’re left shattered – like never before. We’re left in anger and frustration. Ever shout out in total frustration WHY?!” or “WHY ME?!” I’ll admit it. I have. I’ll also obviously admit I don’t know the answer to the question “Why do bad things happen”.

We’re often then left wondering why and thinking clearly nothing good can come from this s Nothing good can come from being stripped of everything, nothing good can come from having your heart shattered, nothing good can come from someone dying from cancer. I mean these are bad things, they are life-altering.

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Reasons, Seasons and Lifetimes

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I’m sure you’ve heard the saying before that people come into your life for a reason, season or a lifetime. If you haven’t, now you have.

Either way, this notion has crossed my mind relentlessly lately in relation to all areas of my life… personal relationships, business relationships, owning material items, you name it.

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Add gasoline to the fire, not water.

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I was sitting by the fire this morning after my workout at about 630 and realized how symbolic fire is to our daily lives. I love a fire in the morning, both physically and internally. Physically, there’s something about the light a fire gives off, the heat, the warmth, the peace, the noise, there’s just something to it.

Internally, it’s safe to say I have a fire burning inside of me, we all do – or should, to some degree. I have one burning for the things that are on my heart. My passions, my drive, my desires, they light a fire in me and I wake up with that fire in my belly every single morning. It’s what gets me out of bed, it’s what allows me to push through hard times, it’s what produces the adrenaline rushes I get, it’s what excels me in all that I do. Continue reading…

Can you be Part Time Vegan? I am.

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I’ve been talking like crazy lately about plants (mostly in response to people asking me what I’m doing different) and labeling myself a part time vegan and I know people just don’t get it or don’t understand so I figured I’d write a blog article and hopefully shed some light on a further understanding — for those who want it. Continue reading…

Looking Forward to Tomorrow

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I read an article on Monday that stated it was found to be the most depressing day of the year. The study completed found reasons ranging (aside from it being a typical Monday and one after a long holiday vacation),  guilt over failed resolutions (people give up fast), divorces (saying January is the most popular month for divorces to be filed – interesting), and weather complaints (way too cold everywhere), among other reasons. Continue reading…

One Day at a Time

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Have you ever watched a tree grow? I’m not talking about watching lilies blossom, but a tree growing. I recently bought a house and I have been watching some trees I bought grow, but I never notice them actually growing. I do realize overall that they’re bigger though.  This makes sense in a way C.S. Lewis once made light of:

“Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes, but when you look back, everything is different…”C.S. Lewis!

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Not getting your way: Embrace it.

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It’s no secret that I get pretty fired up for Monday mornings. I love the feeling in the air knowing an entire week of opportunity and possibilities is before us. It’s the easiest day for me to wake up and get going. It’s also the easiest day for me not to let the things of this world get to me.

Be that as it may, after my workout this morning, I went to go in the hot tub (which I always look forward to) and when I took a step in, the water was 50 degrees. Instantly my attitude started to change. In the smallest way, I didn’t get my way, I didn’t get to plan my day out and relax my muscles after a great work out like I wanted to, and I knew that if I dwelled on that, that little bit of disappointment would snowball and could easily ruin the day. Continue reading…